need to keep this in mind as 27 gets closer every day.
this. and my 8 year list.
2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.
3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.
4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.
5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.
6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.
7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.
8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.
9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.
10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.
11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.
12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.
14. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.
15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.
16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.
Try to practice yoga regularly (defined as twice a week)
Start a new book every time I finish one
Visit the Grand Canyon
Hike! (once a month, when the weather is nice)
Visit Colorado to do Colorado-y things
Actually fix that knee and run a half marathon
Say yes to everything for a day and maybe say yes to doing it again
Work no more than 40 hours a week
Try to transition to working one day at home a week
Visit with Mom & Dad once a month
Go to Tibet
Drive Across the Country
Ride an Elephant
Visit San Francisco
Be in the audience of The Price is Right
Reach my ideal weight without sacrificing my love for food
Swim with a whale
Swim with a manatee
Swim with a sea lion
Climb a legit mountain
Ride in a hot air balloon
See the Northern Lights
Hike the Appalachian Trail
Go on a meditation vacation… and figure out fully what that means
Try the sensory deprivation chamber
Audition for community theater
Hike the Inca Trail and Visit Machu Picchu
Take Andy to the number one place he wants to go and create the perfect vacation for him and don’t complain once
Climb a tree
Stay somewhere other than Baltimore for a few months
Visit Thailand/Cambodia/Vietnam/Laos once that area gets it together
Buy a new car
Spend New Year with no one but Andy in a foreign place
Try skiing (and don’t get hurt!)
Live in a place where I can plant things in the ground
See the Great Wall of China
See a salt flat
Float in the dead sea
Go in a natural hot spring
Go somewhere cold during winter
Go somewhere warm during winter
Take a vacation with my family and Andy’s family
Join a CSA (even a half!)
(to be continued)
This week my cousin passed away from testicular cancer, just a few short weeks after his diagnosis. He was a bright light with a gravity that pulled people in. He made a lasting impact on everyone around him and lived his life with passion. He was only 35.
My other cousin Becky shared this on facebook and it really moved me. Even if you didn’t know him, maybe today and every day we can try to live a little bit more like Brian. #livelikebrian
Back in the day, Brian and Alan really enjoyed the Late Show with David Letterman’s Top Ten. Here’s last night’s Top Ten.
Top Ten Ways to Live Like Brian
10. Find humor in any situation
9. Appreciate nature’s beauty
8. Work hard
6. Be helpful
5. Be positive. It’s contagious.
4. Show kindness
3. Be yourself. Don’t change who you are for anyone.
2. Whatever you choose to do in life, pursue it with passion.
These are the simple truths that I take away from how Brian lived his life. He impacted the world through kindness. If we all strive to do these things more often than not, the world will be better for it. #LiveLikeBrian
6. TOXIC PEOPLE ARE JUST LIKE TOXIC HABITS
This is a big one for me. Obviously when you stop drinking or doing drugs you probably need to change some friends you hang out with. I definitely had to do this and I realized just how little I had in common with some people. I also realized that I had friends that were completely different from me, without the same goals and outlook on life. It felt all too fake. When you make a big life decision like admitting you have an alcohol problem and decide to to stop drinking, you really find out who your true friends are. There are those who will love you unconditionally, those who won’t bat an eyelash, and those who will still offer you cocktails after they already know you don’t drink. I’ve encountered all of the above. Getting rid of my toxic friendships along with my toxic habits just makes sense and I’m learning not to feel bad about it.
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove.
O no, it is an ever-fixèd mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wand’ring bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
I will love you forever; whatever happens. Till I die and after I die, and when I find my way out of the land of the dead, I’ll drift about forever, all my atoms, till I find you again…
I’ll be looking for you… every moment, every single moment. And when we do find each other again, we’ll cling together so tight that nothing and no one’ll ever tear us apart. Every atom of me and every atom of you…We’ll live in birds and flowers and dragonflies and pin trees and in clouds and in those little specks of light you see floating in sunbeams…And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won’t just be able to take one, they’ll have to take two, one of you and one of me, we’ll be joined so tight…
Excerpt from The Amber Spyglass (His Dark Materials Trilogy)
By, Philip Pullman
But offer rough new prizes,
These are the days that must happen to you:
You shall not heap up what is called riches,
You shall scatter with lavish hand all that you earn or achieve.
However sweet the laid-up stores,
However convenient the dwellings,
You shall not remain there.
However sheltered the port,
And however calm the waters,
You shall not anchor there.
However welcome the hospitality that welcomes you
You are permitted to receive it but a little while
Afoot and lighthearted, take to the open road,
Healthy, free, the world before you,
The long brown path before you,
leading wherever you choose.
Say only to one another:
Camerado, I give you my hand!
I give you my love, more precious than money,
I give you myself before preaching or law:
Will you give me yourself?
Will you come travel with me?
Shall we stick by each other as long as we live?
Excerpt from “Song of the Open Road”